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Preparing for the Holidays While Undergoing a Major Life Event

Wed, 26 Aug 2026 10:05:30 GMT

Preparing for the Holidays While Undergoing a Major Life Event

Although it might seem early to start thinking about the upcoming holiday season, the time might be right to at least start considering a game plan if you have something major on your plate for the next 6-9 weeks. What do I mean by something major? Here are a few examples:

Recovering from a surgery
Moving into a new home (and moving out of your previous home)
Dealing with a new medical diagnosis
Welcoming a newborn into your family
Managing a chronic illness
Renovations on your home

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In this blog, I'd like to explore what these situations have in common; how to manage your own (and other's) expectations; and a few strategies appropriate to this "six weeks to Thanksgiving, nine weeks to Christmas/Channukah/Kwanzaa" time frame.

Commonalities of Major Life Events

Aren't You Leaving Out Two Major Life Events--Death and Divorce? What About Those?

While some of these events may be exciting and joyful, others are not. Nonetheless, they do share a few common traits:

They're stressful! Some of the other commonalities will show the details of what makes them so, but all of them produce some degree of anxiety or worry. Why?
They all involve a certain degree of uncertainty. Each of the above situations contain elements that are beyond our control. We don't know how anyone recovering from surgery or dealing with an illness might feel on the holiday; delays are always possible in the realm of home construction and inspection. These delays could occur anywhere in the pipeline, so to speak; it might be a delayed shipment of tile, a permitting issue from your local municipality, or a missed inspection appointment or a failed inspection. Because these situations are so fluid and multi-faceted, the uncertainty they bring can cause stress, anxiety, and worry.
They're exhausting! Pain, stress, and worry can impact our sleeping and eating patterns. We may be physically exhausted from the activities involved in clearing out or packing up a home. We may be emotionally exhausted at seeing a loved one frightened or in pain. Night-time feedings may leave us sleep deprived, and hormonal changes can set us on an emotional rollercoaster. Care-giving can be taxing both physically and emotionally.
They're not the only thing on your plate. Despite these major life events happening, daily life continues to throw its demands at us. Work obligations, child care, and household tasks and errands will all still need to be managed.
They arouse our emotions. Beyond stress and anxiety, other emotions can come into play as well. Sadness at saying goodbye to a community, friends, or a way of life can all accompany a move. Surgery and illness can trigger existential fear. Parents--whether they are welcoming their first child or a sibling to their first-born--can suffer doubts about their ability to manage, whether logistically or financially.
They can be overwhelming. Did you start to feel anxious reading these commonalities? I know I'm feeling it as I write them! Again, because they have so many moving parts and are so impactful to our daily lives, it is easy to feel overwhelmed by the enormity of the situation.

The absence of a loved one poses a different type of challenge, both during the holidays and every day. By the very nature of these events, the upheaval is of a different level. The life events discussed in this blog tend to have a time-bound resolution: we adapt to the new child in the family, recovery occurs after a surgery, moves and renovations get completed. As novelist Allison Pearson states in her 2010 book, I Think I Love You:

"Death itself is too big to take in, she already sees that; the loss comes at you instead in an infinite number of installments that can never be paid off."

Because grief is an ongoing process, it is not part of this blog post. Grief may morph and change, and while peace and healing may be attained--it is not necessarily a time-bound experience.

Managing Expectations--Other's and Your Own

This six-nine-week period prior to the holidays is an ideal time to start formulating how you will deal with the holidays amidst the uncertainty that is in your life right now. Remember it doesn't have to be set in stone--just some things to consider for celebrating the holidays, albeit in a different way. My suggestions below are some tips for dealing with your own expectations and those of your family and friends.

First, accept that your celebration will be different than other years--and that's okay. The holidays are not just about tradition, food, and tablescapes. Love, gratitude, and memories can still be made with a limited menu and guestlist. There's something to be said for watching the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade, football, and eating whatever you and your immediate family or close friends feel like having. Snuggles and chilling out can soothe a high-stress event.

Next, start letting family and friends know that your plans may differ this year. Keeping them in the loop allows them to plan accordingly, if they won't be a part of your celebration; if they are going to join you, then they won't be surprised if your home is not in Instagram-worthy shape, or if a member of your household is quieter or less energetic than usual.

Remember, too, that you can inform people of your plans without sharing more than you're comfortable. A firm, but polite, "We've decided to not travel for this holiday, but thanks for thinking of us" or "We're looking forward to this holiday as a break, so we're keeping it low key this year," or "We appreciate your understanding how much we have on our plate right now with the...(new baby, new construction, recent surgery), so we're going to pass on hosting this year." You get the picture. It's possible to decline while being light on the details.

Strategies for Planning Your Holiday Season When There's Upheaval

Applying these strategies will depend on your exact situation. Use these suggestions as they fit, because dealing with illness or recovery from surgery is very different from renovating your home or moving into a new space. Most of these are "tried and true," not earth-shattering; however, when we're overwhelmed and stressed the simplest thought can prompt us into action, and to remember that there is a way forward.

‍Flexibility is key. If you're dealing with someone's health, plans will depend so much upon how they are feeling on the actual holiday. Renovations or closing on a new home can all have delays. Think in terms of Plan A, Plan B, and maybe even Plan C at this point. Knowing in advance that you have options from which you can choose provides peace of mind.
Enlist help. Make dinner a potluck where each guest contributes something. Hire someone to clean the house, or at least the portion that will be seen by your guests if you choose to host. Have the meal catered. Find someone to shop and chop for you!
It's one day--or not. If you aren't able to get together with family on Thanksgiving, for example, you can catch up with them for the December holidays. Maybe you or your loved will be feeling better during the Thanksgiving weekend--you can certainly celebrate on Friday, Saturday, or Sunday. Consider that shift workers/first responders/hospital employees celebrate this way pretty regularly, because not everyone can be scheduled to have "off" at the same time. Also, we tend to think of the holiday season as running from Thanksgiving to New Year's Day. Many cultures celebrate the Epiphany, which takes place on January 6. Kwanzaa begins on December 26. This year, Channukah begins on December 25. The good ol' "Twelve Days of Christmas" run from December 25 through January 6. Just because the company holiday party was held in the beginning of December doesn't mean that you have to be on to the "new year, new you" track by the end of the month. You have more options for gathering than you may realize.‍
Give yourself, and others, grace. While others may have dealt with similar situations, no one has truly walked the proverbial mile in your shoes. You may be experiencing a lot of powerful emotions; if you've been short with someone, or lost your temper with someone, or cried over something completely unrelated to your stressor--it's understandable. Apologize when you need to. By the same token, forgive when you need to as well. The most well-meaning of people can express themselves in ham-handed ways. Seeing someone hurting may very well be triggering them into their own fears, doubts, and anxiety. Hold on to what is useful and comforting; let go of the rest.

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Over the next six-nine weeks, I'll be blogging about a lot of holiday topics; from menu suggestions to hosting tips, meal prep to time management, to the annual ChoreVoyant gift guide. I hope that the information will be of value to you!

I'd also like to remind you to reach out to me at (201)707-5813 if you need any assistance with the upcoming holiday season. Whether you are going through a major life event at this time or not, the holiday season is a demanding one! Larry and I are here to be that helping hand for whatever it is that arises. It is our privilege to be a part of your life, through all of its ups and downs. Don't hesitate to schedule a call here.

Back to School Shopping on a Budget

Wed, 26 Aug 2026 10:02:16 GMT

Back to School Shopping on a Budget

You've probably noticed it--the sun is coming up a little later and setting a tiny bit earlier. Articles are appearing in your online newsfeed about the latest trends for Fall. Before you know it, the kids will be back in the classroom. Time to start picking up those supplies! It's also time to start thinking about how to do it, without breaking the bank. I've done the research and here are the best practices for back-to-school shopping.

Time and Money-Saving Tips for Back-to-School Shopping

Need Some Help?

Before you buy, check with your school regarding what supplies are required for your child's grade level. Many schools offer parents a list of specific items needed for their child's specific grade level. In fact, some school parent-teacher organization's (PTO's) offer a kit of school supplies that can be ordered at the end of the current school year for the up-coming one. If you were able to place that order in June, you are done with purchasing school supplies! If not, consult the list--then head out to shop.

Check what you already have on hand. Did you buy a few extra notebooks last year? Is last year's backpack still in good shape and age-appropriate? Make use of those items that are still viable, especially if you can pass it along to a younger sibling.

Swap items with other parents. If that Marvel Universe pencil case is too passe for your 5th grader, your neighbor with a child in 3rd grade might think it's the coolest thing ever! And Mom didn't have to spend a dime!

Create a budget. Although you might not be able to hold off on purchasing supplies for your child, you can split your clothes-shopping budget into monthly increments. Purchase some outfits now, and some in September and October. Young ones grow quickly, and what you purchase today might not fit two months from now! Tweens and teens sometimes like to see what is hot with their peers, so it might be advantageous to see how that plays out before making all your clothing purchases.

For binders, backpacks, pencil sharpener, calculators, lunch boxes, water bottles, and the like--think value, versus cheap. Let's face it, young ones can be hard on their stuff. Durability is a plus! Having to replace cheap items of inferior quality multiple times does not save money in the long run.

Value can be found in the least likely places. For clothing, don't overlook second-hand stores. Sometimes, brand new items were donated because they were the wrong size, or didn't fit properly. Dollar stores, too, can offer some quality classroom supplies. You may have to invest time and make multiple stops.

Shop early. Walmart has had school supplies front and center since mid-July. If you have your school's list, shop now--while quantity and selection are high. If you wait until the last minute, your only choices might be what's left.

If going from place to place for school supplies seems daunting, and dealing with crowded stores and parking lots overwhelming--give ChoreVoyant a call! Shopping is a specialty--crowds and long checkout lines don't bother us a bit! We can make sure that you get the right items, at your preferred price point, in plenty of time for the start of school.

What to Know About Vacation House Services

Wed, 26 Aug 2026 10:00:04 GMT

What to Know About Vacation House Services

ChoreVoyant offers vacation house services. What are they? Is it house-sitting? Is it like having a property manager? This blog will explain the difference between house-sitting and home watch services, and how ChoreVoyant bridges the gap between the two.

The Difference Between Home Watch and House-sitting Services

Advantages and Disadvantages of Home Watch and House-Sitting Services

Depending upon the company, home watch services can sound a lot like those of a property manager. According to the National Home Watch Association, it is described as "a visual inspection of a home or property, looking for obvious issues." This includes both the interior and the exterior--making sure all systems, such as the electrical, HVAC, and plumbing are all working properly. A home watch professional will check for leaks, mold, and pests. Reports, pictures, and videos can all be provided from the home watch professional to the homeowner. They also create the impression of a presence in the home--making sure any flyers or circulars are removed from porches and doorframes. In the event that there is a problem with your property, the home watch professional will be in touch with you and will handle the problem the way that you instruct them to.

House-sitters do many of the same tasks, while living in your home for the period of time that you are away. In addition to making sure the house is functioning problem-free, they frequently take on care of pets and plants, too. As a part of living in the home, they also are responsible for keeping the home clean and tidy as well. You will come home, too, to a refrigerator and pantry that have been re-stocked. In many ways, house-sitters are one-stop shopping; your home, pet, and garden are all cared for by one person. You don't have to board your pet and rely on a landscaper. Someone is in your home 24-7, same as you would be.

Home watch professionals can be accredited. The National Home Watch Association offers certification programs for both businesses and employees. Knowing that the person looking after your home has been trained and vetted provides peace of mind.

Home Watch services may charge extra for more personalized services. Sometimes things like dealing with mail, deliveries, stocking your refrigerator, etc. can be part of a "premium" package, increasing the cost of using them.

There are services that vet house-sitters, and it is common to do background/ID checks prior to hiring. This is especially true here in the US. Even house-sitters who are not being paid for their services--that are just enjoying your home rent-free while you are away--can be vetted through membership in an organization such as TrustedHouseSitters. However, the homeowner will need to purchase that membership, or pay for the desired background checks.

If you are away from home for long periods of time (i.e. "snowbirds"), having a house-sitter may protect your homeowner's insurance policy. Most homeowner's insurance policies require someone to "live" in your home, and may consider it "vacant" if no one is there for 30-60 days. However, it is important to speak with your insurance agent. Your insurance carrier may prefer the reports and documentation of a home-watch service, or if you are using a house-sitter, they may ask for documentation of the house-sitter's responsibilities, as well as their dates of service.

ChoreVoyant's Vacation House Services

ChoreVoyant's vacation house services provide you with the same personalized attention as a house-sitter, without extra cost or living in your home! Not everyone is comfortable having someone stay in their home, no matter how well-vetted or recommended they come. Some people would, of course, make exceptions for family or close friends. However, those same people may not want to impose on their family, friends, or neighbors by having them come to their home, water the plants, take in the mail, etc. Other people may not want the "nuts and bolts" reporting of a home watch service. They'd like milk and eggs in the fridge, and no dust on the coffee table, thank you very much!

ChoreVoyant handles both the "nuts and bolts" of checking for leaks, making sure the heating system is working, setting out recycling, and turning lights on and off to make it look like "someone's home" on a daily basis, as well as those personalized services like watering the plants, tidying, and stocking the fridge. We are insured, too, for pet care services--so we are able to come in and check on your pet for feeding, walking, and play time. Our pet services are especially useful if you are out on a day-trip and don't want your schedule determined by your pets feeding and walking times! Here are some client's stories of how ChoreVoyant helped them while they were away:

"L" was away for a long weekend and needed someone to look in on the family cat. I was happy to come by and feed the cat, scoop the litterbox (well, maybe I wasn't happy to do that, but anything for a cute kitty), and bring in any packages that arrived in her absence. She even returned home to a bouquet of flowers!
"M," who is a regular client of ours, was traveling at holiday time and wanted to come home to a clean kitchen, a made bed, and laundry folded and put away. Done, done, and done!
"D," another regular client, traveled for ten days this winter. ChoreVoyant made sure the recycling was set out on the proper date and that the cans were returned to their spot on the property, checked the water levels on the furnace, took in the mail, inspected the house for any leaks, checked doors and windows, adjusted the thermostat for her return home, and stocked the fridge.

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We treat your home with the same care and attention to detail that we'd give ours. We want you to return to your home the same way we'd like to return to ours after traveling--ready to hit the ground running and get back into our normal routines. ChoreVoyant helps you do that by giving you peace of mind while you're away, and by preparing your home for your return. If you're traveling this summer, let's have a conversation. Call us at (201)707-5813 to see if our vacation house services are right for you.

"Set It and Forget It" Shopping

Wed, 26 Aug 2026 09:57:48 GMT

How to Plan a Calm Holiday Season With The Kids--Part 1

Nothing is more aggravating than returning home from the store--grocery store, drug store, or big-box store--and realizing that you forgot an item! It's frustrating, too, to open the kitchen cabinet and find that you are completely out of whatever it is you were looking forward to having. It leaves you disappointed in a way that makes you feel childish--"But Ireally wanted that!" This is why I am a fan of "set it and forget it" shopping.

What is "Set It and Forget It" Shopping?

Items to "Set and Forget"

Set it and forget it shopping is a way to purchase non-perishables in a large enough, but reasonable, quantity that enables you to make fewer store trips without running out of the item. It is a way to save time and money, and always have what you need at your disposal. The 'mental grocery list' will not be as long, and you will have one less thing to think about!

While not every item on your grocery list should be purchased in larger quantities (I'm looking at you, strawberries), there are plenty of non-perishables that can. Here is a list of candidates:

Laundry Products
Dishwasher Pods/Liquid/Powder
Disinfecting Wipes
Multi-Purpose Cleaners
Shelf-stable Milks
Powdered Peanut Butter
Snack Bars
Aluminum Foil
Non-stick Cooking Sprays
Toothpaste
Dental Floss
Garbage Bags
Pet Dental Chews
Pet Food
Cat Litter
Razor Blades

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You get the idea. The point is that whatever is on your list of items for "set and forget" shopping should be non-perishable and something that you use on a consistent basis. Because you use the particular product frequently, you're more likely to run out of it quicker. Purchase the larger quantity, and you'll have to spend less mental energy of keeping track of what you need to buy, and when you need to buy it.

A Note About Mental Energy

According to Psychology Today, mental energy is at the heart of everything we do. Processing information--which these days, comes at us like a tsunami--consumes mental energy. Self-control, decision-making, dreaming and planning for the future all require mental energy. You've probably heard the stories of former President Barak Obama owning a closet full of navy-blue suits, in order to escape decision-fatigue on what to wear. He was conserving mental energy, because he had more pressing issues to think about besides what to wear!

The same goes for you! Don't you have more important things to think about than remembering to buy shampoo? Of course you do! This is why I am such a fan of set it and forget it shopping, because it does free up mental space.

Set It and Forget It, With a Caveat

To be clear, there is an obvious danger in the 'forget it' portion of that phrase. You might forget that you have already purchased an item! That's why it is important to apply this only to things you use frequently. Party goods are one category of product that comes to mind for me. Paper plates, cocktail napkins, and paper cups are generally not things I use on a daily basis. However, I always like to have extra on hand for casual get-togethers. By the time the next party rolls around, I forget that I have them, or have stored them improperly and now they are wrinkled or dusty. So, I buy more--including that little extra...and around it goes, and I wind up with an excess of unusable party goods! The 'forget it' portion is not literal, so to speak. Only to the extent that you don't have to constantly fret over running out of something you genuinely need.

Does "set it and forget it" shopping sound like it would work for you, but you hate the hassle of shopping at warehouse stores? ChoreVoyant is not afraid of taking on the crowded parking lot, the tough-to-navigate aisles, and the long checkout lines! We have helped clients manage the inventory of their pantries, bathroom closets, and utility rooms. Click here to connect with Marcia about how she can help establish a "set it and forget it" shopping routine for you.

How to Plan a Calm Holiday Season With The Kids--Part 1

Wed, 26 Aug 2026 09:55:06 GMT

How to Plan a Calm Holiday Season With The Kids--Part 1

The holiday season is almost upon us. Diwali takes place during the week of October 19. Halloween and Christmas decorations are across the aisle from one another at Lowe's. One look at the school calendar will tell you that November is almost a full month of schedule disruptions, with Thanksgiving being the least among them! If the mere thought of all these schedule changes, and additions to your family's schedule, and the accompanying reassurance and redirection that's needed to keep your little ones from stressing gives you dread--fear not. It's time to take a deep breath, find a reasonably quiet spot, sit down with your favorite beverage and create a plan.

A Schedule Disruption is a Schedule Disruption

Let's set aside what we might think of as the typical issues that come up for little ones and holidays for a moment, and speak solely about school schedule disruptions. In Bergen County, the month of November, and in some school districts even October, is littered with days off and half-day sessions. Even if your kids have been in school for a while and you "know the drill," each stage of your child's development can and will change the nature of how you handle these. That's why a plan is so important--to give you the peace of mind that even in the event of a 'surprise,' you're equipped to handle it. Let's start with what to expect as a Bergen County parent:

Election Day is November 4--many public schools, because they serve as polling place--do not hold classes. Check your district's calendar.
The NJEA is November 6-7--again, most public schools close for this.
Parent-Teacher conferences--many schools have a half-day of classes for this.
Open House for admissions-based high schools
Fall sports banquets for high school students.
Fall play--rehearsals and performances.

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The most obvious thing to start putting into place for the school closures and half-days is childcare. If you're working or have an afternoon conference with your child's teacher, you'll need to decide who your child will be with and what they will be doing during that time. Whether it means drawing on friends or family members, a baby-sitter, or your school's 'after-care' program, putting your childcare in place for these days well in advance provides both you and your child with reassurance. You may even want to set up a back-up alternative in case your original plan falls through! The friend who offers to host your child for the afternoon may have a change in work schedule. If you are relying on your own parents, is there a chance their schedule will change due to a medical situation? Having an alternative saves you from last-minute stress. Even if you will be at home with your child, it's a good idea to map out how you want to spend that time. Do you want to plan an activity with your child during that time? Do you want to use that time for their homework, completion of assigned projects, or quiet reading? Both are equally valid options; decide what makes the most sense for you and your family now. From my days as a public school teacher, I know that many families use that first week of November for family vacations--because school is closed for three of the five days. No matter what you put in place for these days--family time or activities through other childcare options--consider both what is available to you, and how your child will adapt to the rapid changes the month of November holds for them. Keep reading!

Developing a "Time-Off-From School" Routine That Helps Children to Regain Momentum After a Schedule Disruption

How These Tips Can Help Keep The Holiday Season Calm

Whether you remember from your own childhood days or still experience it now, "time off" builds excitement. We anticipate it and savor it. An extra hour or so of sleep! Doing things you enjoy! Quiet time! Fun! And when it finally arrives, we enjoy it as much as we can! Even if you are the one caring for your own child on those days off from school--the smiles, snuggles, and laughter are priceless--you've engineered them! But now that the time off is over--there's a full week of school. So it's back to the "old grind," time for your child to go back to their regular wake-up time, to sitting still and being quiet for what feels like a long stretch of time, to following those classroom rules and expectations. Then it's another two weeks of changed routines and schedules again! It's enough to give an adult whiplash, let alone for children whose brains, bodies, and coping skills are all growing. The following are a few tips to help ease those transitions. They can be used throughout the holiday season--because they emphasize healthy habits that can be utilized over and over again.

Keep your child in the loop. You may know which days have a school closure or an early-dismissal, but your child may forget that it was mentioned on the morning announcements. If you are not sure of the schedule changes, look at your school's calendar weekly, in addition to the daily backpack check. When you know the schedule, remind your child. Once you have set up your plan and put all the pieces in place, describe how the day will go. Make sure they understand how the day will be different, but still have elements they'll understand and that will fit into their routine.‍
If appropriate, include your child in the planning process. While you will, of course, handle the childcare--you can involve your child in selecting the activities for their afternoon or day off. Perhaps allow them to pick one or two, from a choice of three or four. Again, set the boundary of having the special activities fit into a familiar routine.‍
That said, try and keep as much 'routine' as possible. Doing this will make the return to a full week of classes easier. Maintain bedtimes and mealtimes. Keep foods familiar if at all possible--especially if it is not an actual holiday. While your child's school may or may not assign formal homework for the two-day school closures, asking your child to read for 10-15 minutes per day will keep them in the academic 'habit.'‍
Build in outdoor play, if possible. The weather might be cold and rainy in early November, but if it isn't--time at a playground, park, or even in the backyard gives kids a chance to burn off energy in a way that screen-time doesn't provide. Physical activity is good for all of us--both mentally and physically. If weather doesn't allow outside activity--schedule a brief dance party! It gives everyone a fun way to get moving. If your middle or high schooler rolls his or her eyes at this, then try something a bit more "formal"--a short workout video from YouTube. Get creative! "Light saber" fight, anyone?
Have enough flexibility in the activity plan to accommodate for overstimulation. This is especially true on early-dismissal days from school. At school, their regular routine will have been disrupted by shorter class periods, and often enough, special activities ranging from a school assembly, to a fire drill, or to a trip to the PTO/PTA's book fair. Throw in a classmate's birthday that includes distributing a treat to the whole class--your child is already coming to you with a fair amount of upheaval. They may be so hyped that they might not want to go to the movies like you planned, or on the other hand--so tired and cranky that the last thing they might want is the playdate you planned. Keep some wiggle room.

By planning ahead and putting in place a sense of both fun and structure during this time of pre-holiday hullabaloo, you are building a "time-off-from school routine." When the holidays do come around, your child will have a sense of what to expect. Why is that important? Numerous research studies have demonstrated the positive outcomes associated with children following a routine. These include:

The ability of children to form and internalize expectations--which helps your child build good habits through both intrinsic and extrinsic validation
A reduction in uncertainty makes for less anxiety, and for better executive functioning
The opportunity for practicing self-control and delayed gratification--because they're aware of what's coming next
Knowing what's next and what's expected allows children to feel more secure, and a greater sense of agency.

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The last point is crucial, as the more secure a child feels--the less likelihood there is for meltdowns and acting out. Again, if we as adults--who have years of emotional development and practice with self-regulation--can feel 'thrown' when there are last minute changes to our schedule, imagine how a child with less experience, who is building a library of coping skills and learning how to navigate life feels. It can be overwhelming. A gentle approach to consistency--a balance of fun and structure--will help your child not only navigate the ups and downs of their school calendar, but help them build on that navigation for the holiday season and beyond. Taking schedule changes in stride--through an "abridged" routine--will cause less stress for your child, allow them to get back on track after the holidays are over more easily, and to build resilience and self-motivation.

How ChoreVoyant Helps Families Create a "Time-Off-From-School"-Routine

ChoreVoyant is a personal concierge service, not a childcare provider. So, how do we help families create a "time-off-from-school" routine?

In a number of ways, such as:

Making reservations for family activities
Doing online research of childcare options--babysitting, nanny services, etc.
Keeping the home environment "on schedule"--groceries purchased, prepped, and put away; laundry completed; errands completed
Home watch services if you are traveling

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In short, ChoreVoyant gives parents freedom. Freedom to maintain their own work routines despite an up-ended school schedule--by handling the logistics of running their household. Household tasks and errands become one less thing to worry about when there's a lot on their plate. Freedom to enjoy time with their children, without stopping to think about their to-do list. This freedom to do the things you want and need to do--without the hassle of trying to manage your household to boot--brings peace of mind. And calm parents can help support their children through anything--before, during, and after the holidays.

If you are in the Wyckoff, Ridgewood, Ho-Ho-Kus, Waldwick, Old Tappan, Norwood, Harrington Park, Westwood, River Vale, or Oradell area and would like to explore how ChoreVoyant can help you with household tasks and errands--in any season--click here or give Marcia a call at (201)707-5813.

How to Plan a Calm Holiday Season With The Kids--Part 2

Wed, 26 Aug 2026 09:51:04 GMT

How to Plan a Calm Holiday Season With The Kids--Part 2

We've made it through the first week of November, where here in northern New Jersey schools were closed in most school districts for three of the five days. In my last blog, I shared strategies for developing a "here's-what-we-do-when-there's-no-school" routine. Hopefully, those strategies made the transition back into this full week of school easier! In this blog, I would like to discuss three holiday-specific challenges, and how to handle them in a way that honors your child's feelings while letting extended family enjoy their time with you and your little (or not so little) ones. These challenges are food stress, sensory overload, and social pressure.

Food Stress

Sensory Overload

The term "food stress" includes a range of issues--from eating a larger meal either earlier or later than usual, to being asked to eat unfamiliar food, to strong aromas that your child may either find unpleasant or odd. An older child who's exploring vegetarianism may find themselves at Grandma's house with a platter of turkey in front of them. Here are a few suggestions that may keep your child comfortable, and your host from becoming defensive:

Bring your own food. If your child had a food allergy, and you came to Thanksgiving dinner with something special for him or her--no one would give it a second thought. You are protecting your child from harm. In its way, food stress is no different. If your child will only eat cucumbers with ranch dip and chicken nuggets, why put your child (and everyone at the dinner table) through a battle of wills? If you feel like it might be awkward to have your child eat something entirely different from everyone else, you could also bring a dish to share with everyone. This could be anything from steamed carrots to macaroni and cheese to cornbread. Choose the option--individual plate or dish to share--that works best for you.
If your child is open to it, serve them "try bites" of unfamiliar foods. If your child has strong preferences for what they like to eat, but doesn't mind sampling new foods--serve "try bites," which are just tiny "tastes" of those new or unfamiliar foods. This way, your child won't feel overwhelmed. Their plate might look like an artist's palate, but that's okay! They can always ask for more of something they like.
Avoid having your child become "hangry;" pack snacks. Thanksgiving dinner is typically served at a different time than our "everyday" dinner. It's more like a late lunch! If disrupted eating schedules can be uncomfortable for adults, imagine how much more so for children! That said, make sure your child has a good breakfast, and access to light yet nutritious snacks that can tide them over until the feast!
For those who are sensitive to aromas, practice with a "smell tour." In these next two weeks before Thanksgiving, you can set up--in your kitchen or dining area--stations of scents that your child might encounter on the holiday. You might include herbs like sage, spices like cinnamon, and the aptly-named aromatics like garlic or onion. Be sure to use small amounts, and to perhaps do several tours; a second 'smell tour' could be an opportunity to get used to something your child avoided on the first go-round. If something proves too unpleasant--both on your "tour" and at dinner--allow your child to sniff something more pleasant, like lavender or lemon. If time doesn't allow for a practice "smell tour," you can always have your child start out by eating something that is not particularly aromatic--like plain bread or crackers--so that the strong smells are not right in their face, so to speak. You can also opt to sit farther away from the kitchen or near a window or door.

What is your holiday get-together like? Is it multiple conversations swirling around? A football game on the TV in the background of those conversations? Perhaps it's holiday music? All of these things can add up to overstimulation or sensory overload. In little ones, these can look like acting out or having a meltdown. When there is so much sensory input, it can be overwhelming. so, how can you cope--regardless of age? Here are some strategies:

Designate or Identify a "Quiet Zone." If you are hosting the Thanksgiving gathering, designate one area of your home as a "quiet zone." This could be a den, a living room area, or playroom where the music is turned off, there's no television going--but there are plenty of books, cozy blankets, and comfy chairs. If you are the guest in someone else's home, scope out a quiet corner upon arrival. If your child is getting too stimulated, guiding them to this area may help. You can read them a story, or work on a puzzle, or draw or color.
Be prepared. Noise-cancelling headphones, a favorite squishy toy, or beloved activity (like Legos) can be gentle ways to lower the energy for the young ones. While khakis and a button-down shirt, or a dress and tights might be appropriate for the occasion--itchy or uncomfortable clothing are just one more input on a day filled with sights, sounds, and smells. Flannels, fleece, and sneakers might be a more soothing way to go.
Go for a walk. Fresh air and the sounds of nature may provide a pleasurable break from the hubbub of people. Look for squirrels, deer, various birds; collect some leaves. Count how many blue cars you see. Anything you can think of to help young minds focus on something other than noise and action.

Social Pressure

As adults, we might find it hard to make conversation with relatives we only see once or twice a year. For children, especially shy ones, having to interact with unfamiliar faces can be incredibly difficult. Aunts, uncles, cousins who haven't seen your child in a while can pepper them with questions, which again can be overwhelming or awkward. The following tips might make those interactions go more smoothly:

Rehearse greetings. This allows your child to gain the confidence to say things like: "Can we fist-bump instead of hug?" "I'd rather give you a high-five." It's never too early to learn how to shake hands! Let your child know, too, that the 'side-hug' is a perfectly fine way of accepting a hug from relatives.
Practice conversations, including how to end one cordially. Think of the questions adults tend to ask children: "How's school going?" "Are you playing any sports this year?" "Do you like doing____________ (tae kwon do, band, cheerleading, soccer)?" All of them can be answered with one word! So that your child doesn't feel like he or she is getting interrogated--and so that those family members don't feel like they are getting shut down--practice expanding on those answers and asking questions of the grown-ups. These could include things like: "What was your favorite subject when you were in school?" "Did you play any sports when you were my age?" "What clubs did you belong to in school?" Remember, people love to talk about themselves! Also, remind your child that it is okay to end a conversation as well. Give them some phrases to use, such as: "It's been fun talking to you, but I'm going to find my _________________(mom, dad, brother, sister) now." "I'm going to see if Grandma needs any help in the kitchen." "I think I'm ready to go play now. May I be excused?" Practicing making conversation and leaving one gracefully is a win for everyone; you look like a rock-star parent for having such a gracious and polite child, and your child is spared the awkwardness of conversation with people he or she doesn't know well.
Use the buddy system. Pairing your child with a sibling or cousin can make those social interactions with adults more comfortable, because they can take turns answering questions! It takes the spotlight off of them as an individual and makes it a little bit more like the conversations they have with teachers at school. Having a buddy, too, amongst a room full of grown-ups can make the Thanksgiving dinner just a little less boring!

I hope that you have found some tip or nugget of information that could be useful in having a calmer holiday season, especially at family get-togethers. These tips can be used again for the December holidays, or any time that your family or friends gather as a large group. While the bulk of these tips are aimed at helping your child deal with the onslaught of emotions that come with the overstimulation of the holidays, I'd like to also share specifically how ChoreVoyant can help you manage the overwhelm this time of year can bring! ChoreVoyant can help you execute the strategies offered here by:

Helping you with packing your child's belongings for that holiday trip.
Shopping for those snacks that will keep your child nourished and happy.
Preping the ingredients for any dish you are bringing to share.
Ordering those noise-cancelling headphones.

ChoreVoyant can also help eliminate holiday stress for you by:

Helping you avoid crowds at the grocery store by shopping for you.
Washing the "good dishes" by hand in advance of the feast!
Getting the tablecloth and napkins dry-cleaned before or after the holiday.
Taking care of any specialty shopping for cakes or liquor.
Serving as a "second brain," helping you think of all the things you might need--extra food storage containers, as one example.

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Your usual schedule of work, school activities, and household tasks doesn't stop during the holidays. More things just get added to your already-hectic life. ChoreVoyant can take on your household tasks and errands, giving you a bit more time to enjoy the season.

If you live in Bergen County and would like to explore how ChoreVoyant can help you manage both the mental and logistical aspects of running a home--any time of year--click here or give Marcia a call at (201)707-5813.

How to Plan a Calm Holiday Season--Part 3--Parent Edition

Wed, 26 Aug 2026 09:46:34 GMT

How to Plan a Calm Holiday Season--Part 3--Parent Edition

As I write this, Hanukkah is only days away—and Christmas and Kwanzaa are a mere two weeks away, with New Year’s Day trailing them by another week. Personally, I’m feeling pulled in a million different directions—even though my obligations are not quite the same as those of my clients! Although the pace of our activities seems to inevitably pick up at this time of year, the choices we make can go a long way toward making our commitments manageable. In this blog, I would like to explore a few ways to, as the ChoreVoyant tagline says, simplify your day—both during the holidays and the rush that happens beforehand.

The Pre-Holiday Rush

During the holidays

Back when I was an orchestra teacher, December was a busy month because of school performances. If you have a child in any performing art—music, theater or dance—then you have probably already experienced those “busy seasons,” whether they coincide with the winter holidays or not. This is also true if you have a child in sports, and especially so if they are on a traveling team. These commitments, along with general holiday preparations, holiday shopping, and things like the work place holiday party or cookie swap, call for your household management routines to be as quick and simple as possible. I suggest:

‍Take the path of least resistance to dinner. This does not mean ordering takeout every night! Pre-cut vegetables and rotisserie chicken can keep your family’s hunger at bay, and you feeling like you’ve still put a nutritious meal on the table despite the mad dash. If you have picky eaters where you know that this strategy won’t work, find your most nutritious option that will keep them happy. For example, there are a number of less-processed, white-meat or even vegetarian chicken nuggets on the market at this time. Same for boxed macaroni and cheese. If you have a vegetarian at home, or a gluten-free family member—you have good options there as well. Lentils can be cooked quickly in a rice cooker; steam-in-bag vegetables or rice do not necessarily have to be steamed in their bags—they can be roasted or air-fried as well. Remember, cauliflower can do anything! Also, eco-friendly disposable plate options exist. Compostable plates are available both online and at local grocerystores. This will lighten the load of doing dishes!

Batch. Whether it is cooking, baking, or running errands, batching things together can calm the feeling of being pulled in multiple directions. This may require you to carve out a larger block of time to accomplish what you want to—whether it is taking care of errands/shopping over the course of a few hours, or doing “blank canvas cooking” for the week, or holiday baking. Treat this time like an appointment, and don’t fill it with “one more thing.”

Tidy as you go. This is a suggestion so basic, it’s annoying. If you use it, put it back where it was stored. If at all possible, when you are preparing a meal or baking—wash that mixing bowl, spoon, or food processor part as soon as you can. Put laundry away as soon as it comes out of the dryer. The few extra minutes spent on these activities can yield bigtime savings by not allowing clutter to accumulate, messes to grow, or a mountain of laundry to be put away. When I really don’t feel like doing these things, my mantra becomes, “I want 8 pm Marcia to be as happy as 8 am Marcia is.”‍

Delegate. There’s no reason you have to be the person to complete every task on the to-do list. You can split them with your spouse or partner, divide them up among your entire household—assigning your children age-appropriate tasks, or hire a personal concierge service like ChoreVoyant!

The holiday break may feel even more pressured, for a variety of reasons. Hosting or traveling each have their own stressors that may leave you feeling as if you’ve had no break at all. Perhaps your time off from work is limited, and the only person on a holiday break is your child! Granted, many of our holiday activities provide us with beautiful memories and grateful hearts, but they might also leave you feeling like you have zero down-time! Here are a few ways to create a little more space for you in this “most wonderful time of the year:

"No” is a complete sentence. You don’t have to attend or participate in every party, religious service, or family gathering that happens. Choose the activities that are the most meaningful for you and your family. Visits with family and friends can usually get split up across the week between Christmas and New Year’s.‍

Carve out at least some time for yourself. Whether you’re a night owl or an early bird, make time for something that you truly enjoy. That might mean enjoying some coffee and quiet time before everyone wakes up, fitting in a quick workout, taking a walk outside, or reading or journaling after everyone is asleep. You will return to everything and everyone else at least somewhat more fulfilled and refreshed.‍

Let your relatives spend time with your littles. Grandparents, aunts, uncles—especially those who might be visiting from out of town and don’t get to spend much time with your child—can take them to a movie, a park, ice skating, out for a meal, whatever activity your relative might be up for doing in the company of your child. It will give you a bit of time to do any of the things that make you feel more like yourself, and your relatives get to make some memories with your little one. You know your relatives best; choose the one that you feel certain will take the best care of your child (so you don’t spend your free time worrying about how things are going), and let them know your expectations regarding your child’s food intake, behavior—anything that would give you pause.‍

Have at least one day “off.” When I was growing up, New Year’s Day was kind of that time for our family. No obligations; no big celebrations, no visiting or anyone coming to visit. Just a day to relax. Whatever day you choose, try to have it so that no one in your family has anything scheduled.

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The holidays can offer a break from the daily grind—that’s what makes them so magical. However, I stand by my suggestions from part one of this series, that having a non-routine “routine” can make the days of holiday break more predictable for your child and less chaotic for you. We’re talking those regular mealtimes, playtimes, and bedtimes. Additionally, the transition back to the regular school/work schedule may be a bit easier, too—because structure never totally disappeared. Plus, everyone feels better when they are well-rested and well-nourished.

I wish you the happiest of holiday seasons, and all the best for 2026! I hope that these tips and suggestions can serve as reminders to take care of yourself during this time of year, and to slow down and savor the time that you do have with family and friends. Despite what those Hallmark movies depict, your holiday doesn’t have to be picture-perfect. It only has to bring you joy and peace.

From December 22 to January 2, ChoreVoyant will not be offering client services. We are looking forward to working with you in 2026, beginning January 5!

The ChoreVoyant Method--From Overwhelmed to Aligned

Wed, 26 Aug 2026 09:41:47 GMT

The ChoreVoyant Method--From Overwhelmed to Aligned

As a personal concierge, I am privileged to serve clients in two ways. Firstly, I offer a helping hand with a wide variety of tasks and errands—everything from scheduling a dryer-vent cleaning to prepping vegetables for snacks and meals, to Target runs, to doing Amazon returns, to taking shoes to the shoe repair shop. I do the deed, so my client doesn’t have to! Secondly, I act as a resource for my clients. I listen, and provide a sounding board for their goals. I provide them with ideas on being proactive to meet those goals, and if needed, I can connect them with other service-providers. I can make introductions, and be onsite when that service-provider visits their home.

Being proactive is really at the heart of going from chaos to calm. However, before you can be proactive, you need an ARK. What on earth am I talking about? ARK is my acronym for the 3 things:

Acceptance
Realistic Expectations
Knowledge

Let’s be honest—everyone has some level of “chaos” in their life. It’s proof you have a pulse! The ARK provides you with an opportunity to step back, breathe, assess, and get your bearings. Let’s look at the “A” of ARK, acceptance.

Step 1: Build an ARK

Acceptance as a Mindset

Acceptance is crucial to moving from overwhelmed to aligned. What exactly should you accept? Let’s look at them in order of importance:

Lack of availability does not mean “Lack of Ability.” For me, this tops the list. Running out of time to do things doesn’t necessarily mean you’re not managing your time well, or that you are “failing,” or “can’t keep up.” We do things the way we do them. If some tasks take longer than others, or if you devote more time to certain tasks or routines than your mom, or your friends, or online gurus—it doesn’t mean you’re wrong or “bad at managing your life.” Accept that your stands are different; no judgement—not better or worse, just different. Be you. More suggestions related to this come in the rest of the acronym.

Delegating is a sound strategy. Look at CEOs. They have specialists assisting them with finance, marketing, research and development. You are the CEO of your home; delegating tasks to your spouse, children, or hired help like ChoreVoyant allows you to function better in your role as a decision-maker. If you believe it is for the “good of the organization” to accept assistance on certain tasks, go for it. You are being strategic, not lazy; your time can be better spent in your various roles—unique individual, wife, mother, entrepreneur, sister, friend, daughter. Think big picture.

No one’s life is completely smooth sailing—no matter what they’re telling you or sharing on social media. Everyone has their stressors; not everyone, though, is stressed by the same things. Consider your friend circle: your bestie might completely freak out at something that wouldn’t cause you to blink. By the same token, things that send you into a meltdown might not even register as a problem to your best friend. We’ve all got something.

Some stressors are really a blessing in disguise. Of course, I’m not talking about life-altering stressors—death, divorce, illness. I’m talking about run-of-the-mill, garden-variety stressors—clutter, being overbooked and overwhelmed, preparing for a ‘milestone’ event, like a First Holy Communion or a Bar Mitzvah. Have you ever seen those social media posts that go something like this: “Dirty dishes in the sink are a sign you didn't go hungry today. Piles of laundry mean you have resources and wear clean clothes every day. Being tired from your job means you are working somewhere.”

As saccharine as posts like that are, there is a grain of truth in them. If you think hard enough, you probably already know someone who is going through something a whole lot more stressful than what’s currently on your plate. Gratitude can change your perspective.

Considering your schedule, how you like to do things, your energy level, emotional bandwidth, as well as your feelings about and willingness to delegate are all part of coming to acceptance in what your unique household will look like and how it will operate.

Realistic expectations are another vital piece of going from overwhelmed to aligned. We humans tend to be incredibly hard on ourselves; when someone tells us to set realistic expectations, we interpret that to mean “lower our expectations.” Realistic expectations do not mean that you must accept bad habits, disrespect, or disarray. It does mean being cognizant of the people you live with and their quirks. It might mean picking your battles. It will mean being gentler with yourself. Which leads to the last letter of our acronym: “K.”

Realistic Expectations Go Hand in Hand with Acceptance

Knowledge of Yourself Will Guide You in Setting Realistic Expectations

Can you see how the three areas: acceptance, realistic expectations, and knowledge of yourself are all of a piece? Let me dive a little deeper into what I mean by knowledge of yourself. Here is a personal example:

Given my own personal quirks, my temperament, and my current stage of life, I have a fairly slow roll in the morning. I’m not the person who is going to bounce out of bed and head to the gym or go for a walk. I’m going to drink coffee, read something spiritual, check emails, read what interests me in the New York Times, eat breakfast. If I didn’t sleep well or didn’t have much down-time the day before—far more time is spent doom-scrolling and chugging coffee. I know these things about myself, and can plan accordingly.

Conversely, if I know my schedule and see that tomorrow is a busy day—I do some things to prepare the night before. Doing a “brain dump” of what needs to happen to make that busy day run smoothly the night before allows me to write up a to-do list—so I don’t forget something. Knowing how I want that day to play out lets me make choices on what I will do or not do in the morning. So, it’s knowledge of a lot of things: my own temperament, what’s planned for the day, what I want to happen when I get home from work. Knowledge of all those things allows me to set realistic expectations. I get to be less frazzled, do less negative self-talk because I can accept myself and make peace with those expectations. This is what I mean when I say that Acceptance, Realistic Expectations, and Knowledge are all of a piece. Each one supports the other.

Again, being totally honest—do I knock it out of the park every day? No! I still have a lot of work to do in the area of realizing what can be accomplished within a particular timespan. But again, I’m aware and I try to adjust accordingly.

Finally, building an ARK will not only help you go from chaos to calm—it will help you to delegate comfortably and effectively, and will allow you to have the best experience possible with a personal concierge service like ChoreVoyant. Your ARK serves as the foundation for proactive household management, and will guide you into step 2 of the ChoreVoyant Method, to be discussed in the next blog. In conclusion, ask yourself these questions:

What do I need to accept about myself, my family, my current stage of life that will help me set realistic expectations for managing my household?

Given my schedule, temperament, and personal quirks--what tasks can I realistically do myself? What tasks can I delegate?

If I chose to delegate, what tasks are a good fit for my spouse/life partner? For my kids? Which tasks do I feel require outside help?

What stops me from accomplishing my household management goals? Is it something I can change? If I can't change it, what are some doable work-arounds to manage those obstacles?

How well do I know myself? What's the difference between what I'd like to have happen, and how I actually operate? Do I want to close this gap? What would help me close this gap?

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If you live in Bergen County and would like to work through these questions and explore how ChoreVoyant can help you manage the mental and logistical load of running a home, click here or give Marcia a call at (201)707-5813.

How to Have a Positive Post-Surgery Experience by Preparing Your Home and Your Life Pre-Surgery

Wed, 26 Aug 2026 09:35:00 GMT

How to Have a Positive Post-Surgery Experience by Preparing Your Home and Your Life Pre-Surgery

Recently, I was asked about the "tipping point" that prompts clients to reach out to me. Over the years, I have found that one recurrent tipping point is when someone has been scheduled for surgery. Regardless of whether or not they live alone, the prospect of not being able to perform routine tasks can be really troubling to people. No one wants to be in pain or have limited mobility and live surrounded by chaos--piles of laundry, dirty dishes in the sink, a mailbox filled to overflowing because they are unable to walk to it. Post-surgery, you'll have enough other, more personal things to navigate--such as bathrooming, bathing, and dressing. Do you really want to be focusing on prepping meals and wiping countertops?

This blog will offer a few tips and strategies for preparing your home and your life before you go under the knife, so that you can focus on healing and getting back to normal. Also, I will point out some ways that a personal concierge can help you, both pre-and post-surgery.

What You Can Do to Prepare Before the Surgery

How a Personal Concierge Can Help--Both Pre- and Post-Surgery

Pre-surgery is the time to start reverse engineering what your post-surgery day-to-day will look like. You will still need to eat; you'll want your house to be clean and reasonably tidy; you'll want options for managing your home that may or may not depend on others. Here are some things to consider, and some possible solutions for keeping things simple while you are on the mend:
‍Do a deep clean or have your home deep-cleaned prior to surgery. Don't let dust bunnies become a pet peeve as you rest either in bed or on the couch. A good cleaning gives you peace of mind that surfaces are sanitary, and that, if you do have other people to help you, they will just have to do a bit of maintenance.
If you are able, cook meals ahead of time. This is the time to batch-cook and to "blank-canvas" cook. It is important, though, to think through what you might want to eat if you're stomach isn't able to handle much. You might want to have on hand broth-based soups, rice, mashed potatoes, pre-made smoothies, dishes that might help with pain-med constipation, things containing ginger to sooth any lingering nausea. For me, variety would be key; yes, I'd want to have the bland things on hand, but once that post-anasthesia queasiness passes--I most likely would want to return to a more normal diet. Prep the bland foods, but also prep your favorite nourishing foods. The idea of blank-canvas cooking is to prep those veggies and lean proteins in a way that allows you to use them in multiple ways. Tonight's grilled chicken breast can become tomorrow's chicken salad. Roasted cauliflower can be served with cheese sauce one night, but with an Asian-inspired one on another day.
Stock up on those items that you'll inevitably need, and on ones that will make life easier. Pre-surgery is the time to make sure you have plenty of paper products on hand: tissues, toilet paper, napkins, paper towels, and disinfecting wipes. These items don't have an expiration date. Taking care of this now will save you and/or your loved ones from the hassle of ordering them online and dealing with opening boxes. This is especially true if you don't have someone with you to take care of bringing delivered items into your home. If you expect that taking care of dishes will be a challenge during your recovery, this is the time to buy paper plates and bowls, disposable cups and cutlery. If you feel bad about creating unnecessary waste, there are now a wide-range of compostable products from which to choose.
Not to put too fine a point on it, but stock up on those personal care items, too. Menstrual products, incontinence products, hemorroid treatments. You know, the fun stuff.
Find out if you will need a shower chair or cast-cover. If your doctor has given you some instructions on post-operative bathing, buy those items you'll need now. You may want to consider options--especially with things like cast-covers--in case you need a larger or smaller one. Have a back-up plan.
If you know that you will need to adjust your clothing choices, buy what you need now. Some surgeries won't allow you to raise your arms overhead. Others may require you to wear a special type of bra. Consult with your doctor, and purchase those button-down shirts, front-clasp bras, loose pants, whatever it is--in advance of your surgery.
If you live alone, make a contingency plan for help, especially in the early part of your recovery. If you're on crutches, getting food out of the refrigerator is going to be a challenge. If you're surgery limits you to one hand, you will need help opening containers and cutting your food. Pre-surgery is the time to line up some help--whether it is a friend, family member, or home healthcare worker.

Before any surgery, there could be blood tests and EKGs, chest x-rays, biopsies, and any number of other screenings and consultations. Both before and after surgery, your priority needs to be your health and well-being--whatever that looks like for you, based upon your healthcare provider's advice. A personal concierge can handle the running of your home. There have been ChoreVoyant clients who have come to me for that very reason: they were having surgery, and wanted their home to operate 'business as usual.' Post-surgery, I took care of:

Laundry
Running the dishwasher
Grocery shopping
Managing home deliveries--opening boxes, putting items away
Gift shopping
Appointment setting

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In the run-up to a surgery, a personal concierge can:

Shop for the personal care items
Help with food prep
Purchase paper goods and groceries
Set appointments for both home maintenance activities and for personal care (massages, PT)
Research and vet cleaning services
Pick up specialty equipment from vendors (shower chairs, cast-covers)
Manage clothing returns
Help with creating an itinerary for friends or family who may be helping with personal care

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For sure, you don't need to be having surgery to receive personal concierge services. However, most people need a tipping point of some sort--a feeling of overwhelm, a missed opportunity or deadline, a personal cost in either time or money--to prompt them to accept help in their day-to-day life. Surgery can be one of those overwhelming experiences. ChoreVoyant is here to serve--in good times and challenging ones. We partner with our clients to provide them with the calm, ease, and trust that can make their healing journey smoother and quicker. If you have an upcoming surgery, or are feeling like you've got too much on your plate, click here for a list of our services.

ChoreVoyant's service area covers all of Bergen County. If you are interested in a discovery call, please reach out to Marcia at (201)707-5813.

'Spring' Into Action

Wed, 26 Aug 2026 09:29:12 GMT

'Spring' Into Action

As I write this, spring is roughly a week away! Although this winter has been a cold, snowy one—it seems to have flown by! If winter has gone by in a blink, imagine how much faster spring will seem to go: Easter/Passover/Eid Al Fitr will soon be here, followed by Mother’s Day, First Holy Communion and Confirmation dates, Prom Season, and before you know it—Memorial Day, the unofficial start of summer. It feels like we don’t have a moment to waste!

Last summer, I shared with my clients a month-by- month calendar based on the rhythms of a typical public-school calendar. It included planning for things like school vacations, parent-teacher conferences, and spring sports/music ensemble schedules, to name a few things. One of my brilliant clients, who lives in Old Tappan, created her own calendar—one for home maintenance and holiday-related tasks. This is such a terrific idea, as it allows her to be proactive not only in the spring, but throughout the entire year! Her calendar includes tasks that might benefit you. Here are a few examples:

Confirming arrangements for family celebrations
Scheduling HVAC and plumbing services
Scheduling rug cleanings
Checking Smoke and Carbon Monoxide detectors
Having the home exterior power washed
Getting patio furniture unwrapped
Cleaning the dryer vents

Taking care of tasks like these now—getting them scheduled and making arrangements for them—frees up so much of my client’s mental energy, because she knows it is handled. And this is where ChoreVoyant comes in; we make the calls and put the services on the calendar. As a personal concierge, the closeness of my relationship with the client allows me to have access to her calendar/schedule, to know the rhythms of her day-to-day life, and to be on-site when the services take place. ChoreVoyant gives her the time-freedom to live her life—which is filled with family, friends, and meaningful work. It’s a blessing to be part of her world! And what makes personal concierge work so fulfilling is that I get to do this for moms and families throughout Bergen County, so that an increasing number of them get to experience that same time-freedom and peace of mind.

Spring Into Action by Reverse-Engineering Your Summer Now

Reverse-Engineering Your Summer

So, how could ChoreVoyant potentially help you “spring” into action? Let’s look at our process:

Conversation: All client interactions begin with a dialogue. We ask about your plans sequentially, proceeding month-by-month on where you’re going, what you’re doing, and what you hope to accomplish. We discuss the details of how, when, and where you’d like us to help, and how ChoreVoyant can best serve you.
Research: Need a spa appointment scheduled at your vacation destination? If there isn’t a spa in your hotel, we’ll find the best one nearest your location. Taking care of a home renovation project? We can look up vendors, speak with them, and schedule any walk-throughs.
Planning: ChoreVoyant frequently serves as a “sounding board” for our clients. We can help them map out the timelines for their summer goals, making sure that those home projects don’t languish because of travel. We can also help with strategizing the flow of any home entertaining that you may be doing, and keep an eye open for those back-to-school deals. If it feels odd to you to even have next schoolyear on your radar right now, remember—it is our job to help keep you several steps ahead. Proactive planning now will help you feel calmer and more in control in the future.
Implementation: This is where ChoreVoyant really shines. Need help packing for that vacay? ChoreVoyant can fold those clothes, put them into packing cubes, and make sure your suitcase doesn’t go over any weight limitations. Not home for an appliance delivery? We’ll be there. Want “presence” in and around your home while you travel? We can do house checks to make sure everything is in good working order, and even prepare your home for your return! Is your summer looking more like a staycation? You can still enjoy every moment, because we apply this same process to those mundane tasks that take place all the time—grocery shopping, food prep, and laundry. Although these tasks are universal—everyone does them—their execution is unique to your household. Our relationship with each client allows us to be aware of their preferences and needs; we strive to go above and beyond our clients’ expectations, by introducing them to solutions they might not have thought of.

The Benefits of Reverse-Engineering Your Summer

The benefits of reverse-engineering any season are many, and I’d like to share a handful of them with you. They include:

The peace of mind that comes from knowing that nothing is going to catch them off-guard. Tasks are scheduled, and appointments are set. The families we serve in Bergen County have both time-freedom and emotional freedom.
The relief that comes from sharing the mental burden of “keeping track.” ChoreVoyant partners with clients to share in that responsibility of knowing when, when, where, and how things are supposed to happen in their home.
The time-freedom that comes from delegating the “doing.” When your time is not taken up by researching vendors, making calls, doing the laundry, the shopping, and the meal prep, you’re free to spend that time on what matters most to you.
The clarity that comes from being able to see your household maintenance routines, special projects, as well as daily and weekly tasks, laid out step by step and month by month.
An increase in energy, because they are not ground down by ‘trivial pursuits’ and nagging details. Our clients are better able to focus on their health and relationships because they are less exhausted and stressed.

So, what are you waiting for? We offer a wide range of package options that can be suited to your needs and your budget. We welcome clients whose needs are simple and quick, as well as those whose plans are more complex and lengthy. We serve all of Bergen County, so we can do in-home tasks at your residence in Franklin Lakes and pick up items from your favorite specialty store in Westwood, as well as run to the Costco in Teterboro for you! We’ve got your needs—summer, and in all seasons—covered at ChoreVoyant.

ChoreVoyant is a personal concierge service that saves busy Bergen County moms from the mental and logistical burden of managing a home. If you're overwhelmed, have a packed schedule, or simply want more time for yourself, please reach out to us at (201)707-5813 or by clicking here.